What’s In A Name Part 2

by Amanda on July 28, 2010

The more I read my previous post, the less happy I am with it.

For a start, it makes it seem as if I have something against street girls. I don’t. That’s just not the part of the market that I am aiming for. If someone wants to work in this industry and chooses to work in a parlour or on a street corner, then I salute them, it’s just not for me.

The point I was trying (badly) to make in my last post was that we all market ourselves differently. We are all different. Not necessarily better or worse, just not the same.

The thing we fight against is the media portrayal of us as crack whores (or whatever). This got me thinking. If I have so much trouble convincing some people that I do this of my own free will, because I enjoy it and that I don’t touch drugs. What about the the street girls who do the job because they enjoy it. Probably about 50% of people would rather believe that I do this because I’m coerced and desperate. Imagine how hard it would be for a happy street hooker to convince people that she doesn’t need to be rescued.

I would love to sit down with a girl who works the streets for all the right reasons and have a chat. I’d love to find out just how much the same/different our worlds are. I wonder if Julie Bindel has ever done that? She seems to quite carefully stick to anyone who will reinforce her beliefs.

The more I think about the word escort, the more I think that it could apply to anyone in the industry as long as they don’t limit themselves to 5 minute blowjobs just to feed their habit.

Call girl… That works for me. Ok, call needs to extend to email, but it’s close enough. The problem with that is that it starts to wend it’s way toward the lingo that is used at the uber expensive end of the market and I really don’t want anyone to associate me with that either.

The not wanting to be associated with things isn’t snobbery by the way. It’s more about making sure that clients know what to expect when they meet me. If I was feeling snobby, I would market myself as a “High class courtesan”. I’m not and sooner or later a client would meet me for the first time and die laughing. I don’t need that on my conscience.

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What’s In A Name?

by Amanda on July 18, 2010

Every now and again, someone jumps up and down about the word Prostitute. Either it will be a working girl stating that:

I’m not a prostitute, I’m an escort!

Or possibly a pedant, usually a bloke (sorry guys) saying:

You’re all prostitutes and you shouldn’t confuse the issue by calling yourselves anything different. An escort, escorts people (usually men), she doesn’t have sex with them.

The thing is, there are certain images that the word prostitute brings to mind that a  lot of girls just don’t want to be associated with.prostitutes

For instance, if I tap “Prostitutes” into Google image search, the first result is this charming picture of two street walkers very kindly holding up a lamppost. I shan’t comment on the outfits or the hair… Well, no more than I just have anyway. Now, if you’ve never plied your trade on a street corner, never run over to a car and asked a bewildered Japanese tourist in a rental car whether they are “Lookin’ for business luv?” then why on earth would you want someone to have that image in their mind when they thought of you.

The problem is that while in people’s heads, the word prostitute is synonymous with street walkers, it is actually our correct job title (and theirs too of course).

You can go the other way and call yourself a sex worker, but then you could mean lap dancer, stripper or any number of other things.

just-julesSo for the guys who constantly question us when we use the words escort, floozy, tart, strumpet and even whore. There is you answer in pictures, so that its easy to understand. The word ‘prostitutes’ brings the above picture. The word ‘escorts’ brings this one. Now call me a snob, but I know which picture I’d rather be associated with.

So consider it a sub-category. A word we use just to clarify things.

Amanda xx

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